I have been fortunate to connect with many people from all over the world over the last few years and something that comes up often and something I have felt myself are feelings of next to no self worth & feeling like a failure. At the beginning of my journey, I thoughts these feelings came from my weight. It was the story I told myself and it killed my spirit.
I believe we should all be living our most healthy life because that very action allows better quality of life overall. In saying this, I also realize in living my own truth, that the biggest prison was not my body but yet my mind.
It’s extremely important to know how special and worthy we are no matter our size, how we look, where we work, the car we drive or the friends we have….So often, the person howling out the insults most, is ourselves with the negative self talk never ending and this often comes from us internalizing what we ” think ” others are thinking. Something important to do is to step back, take in the entire picture and be willing to see all that we are. Society may have us thinking that it all comes down to appearance & status but who is society really ?! We are !! We create the reality of what is and what is not. It’s also important to remember that if you are in a place of wanting to make health changes, you are NOT alone….almost every person walking around has something they would like to change and unlike weight, it may not be something you can see – you are not alone in having a goal to better yourself. I want to add that this applies to any person with any self improvement goal. The question is, what do people really see ?! I believe people often see what we reflect out, for myself, it was the story I told myself that I shared with others without even knowing it, the story that all my worth was based on how I looked and therefor, I had no worth.
If you are struggling to love yourself as you are, step back and talk to yourself like you would a best friend you love and adore. You may suggest to a best friend things they need to change so they can live their best life, but you would say it with love, care, compassion and you would recognize every amazing quality about them from the twinkle in their eye to the cute dimple that curls around their lip when they smile at something funny. You would focus on their value and tell them that getting healthy is so they can live longer and that it has nothing to do with being amazing, worthy, special, funny, loving, beautiful, compassionate, talented, or important because they already are ALL of these things this very moment.
A big part of my mission, what I feel guided to do, is to help people live their best most happy, healthy authentic life. To help people see how amazing they are now (TODAY) just as they are. I truly believe that living our best life needs #SelfLove #SelfBelief & #SelfRespect, so we have a solid foundation on which everything else can flow from and of course for me, my main foundation is God where I draw all my strength Psalm 28:7 – Pay attention to the things you tell yourself and if you hear yourself talking negative, take the time to flip it around into positive. This may be hard at first, however, it will change your life !
I also want take the time to say, the reason we should focus on self #Love #Respect & #Belief is NOT to worship ourselves or practice narcissism, it’s because we need to realize that when we are consumed in negative, we can cannot be a vessel of light, love or anything positive… I’ll end this with the reminder that we are EACH wonderfully made in his image and indeed ” good enough ” In SO many ways we will be who we tell ourselves we are ! ~ Sara Bown
For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth.